Perspectives

Life is a journey , I know I know , y’all will say again a cliché but hear me out first !!! So I was saying that , this journey is not always fun and happy . At times it’s bumpy too , for some there are too many bumps ,for some far too less . These bumps are important too, to make us look deeper into life , to develop perspective, to make us understand why life is worth every second of it .

I am going to tell you story of a girl, her struggles and how she learned the art of prioritizing and gained perspective. We will call that girl S. She was happy go lucky, straight forward in voicing her opinion or thoughts, chirpy and fun to be with, few experiences in her short life had also taught her how important it is to respect and value emotions and relations . She respected all, irrespective of age, status, gender, relation because that’s what her parents had taught her.Her life was all smooth and hunky-dory , but that’s what she was thinking. Due to some petty misunderstandings , some half baked truths and some outrightly blatant lies, certain people disliked her. She was totally unaware of this, but negative vibes know how to find it’s prey !! At first she did not believe or understand the reason of their dislike. The hatred towards S became so palpable that she was treated like a fly on the wall , snubbed publicly and smirked at . She was emotionally disturbed and distraught thinking “why this is happening”??

cloudy days too teach you something

She stopped meeting, greeting or even smiling at others for the fear of what they might have heard of her . And every night , every single night she went to sleep crying because her social image had been ruined(but only in her mind, she was so naive that she was seeking validation from others).She believed, she had no friends to turn to. But that was not true and that’s what her family told her . They encouraged her to go out, meet people irrespective of what they are thinking.

Now you see there is this thing about lying , after some time you stop keeping track of your lies and this spider type web , engulfs you , when it reaches it’s optimum level . So when the lies became too much, others started seeing through it and they found that S is amazing , fun to be with and loyal to the core, towards her friends.

sunny days were waiting for her

We all know that every cloud has a silver lining , encouraged by the positive response. S started going out, on walks, started initiating conversations on pretext of some query, about weather or any random topic . Slowly and steadily others started warming up towards her adoring her. She formed lasting bond with some of the other girls .

You must be wondering where this blabbering is going . While S was busy fighting those emotional demons and loneliness, she also developed perspective. She learned that it’s important to be alone, specially when you are young . Though society perceive it as a negative state of being and thinks that something is wrong with the person who is alone or wants to be left alone. Some even associate it with depression which is so so wrong . Loneliness is of course, as a word scary, but in truth not so much . It encouraged S to drop her social facade and in deciding what she wants without outside influence, she made better choices. She discovered who she is as a person. She learned to differentiate between needs and wants in her realtions as well as social situations.

she bloomed and became a better version of herself and her quest continues till this day

Fast forward to this day and different scenario , S is a mother , and she observe other parents providing many options and varieties to their kids . By providing children a lot of opportunity to keep them away from boredom and being destructive they are also depriving them of this valuable time to learn how to be comfortable with themselves ,to become resourceful and develop empathy and compassion. Being alone or left alone makes them search for other options on their own, they develop new ideas to occupy themselves . And racking one’s own brain is so important for cognitive development . Always being surrounded by easy options kill productivity and resourcefulness.

Solitude also lowers behavioral problems in kids, they learn compassion and empathy for those people too who don’t fit in their inner circle (like S did), they learn how to utilize the time all by themselves and turn the insecurities and weakness into strength. They are better behaved because the word boredom is not in their vocabulary . People who prefer to be alone are happier than those who seek company always , reason them being creative , productive and their acquired thirst to learn and create keeps them positively busy . Most bullying behavior takes place due to boredom or lack of compassion , do encourage your child to seek for some alone time , don’t worry , they will become better human being by searching their own true self .

every child is beautiful help them in becoming their best version